Relationship Warning Signs – 2 Subtle Warning Signs Your Relationship is Not Strong Enough

Here are Two Simple Relationship Warning Signs That

You Can Use To Nip Problems in The Bud Before They

Create Serious Damage!

It is one of the easiest ways to put down your spouse or partner, but also one of the most deadly relationship warning signs that you should be one aware of. It is called invalidation.  Put another way, it is a quick way to hurt the feelings of your wife, husband, or other significant person.  Hurt feelings are not nice, but we often use this weapon without even thinking about it.

First of Two Relationship Warning Signs:   Invalidation

Invalidation is just the opposite of validating that special person in your life. Some people will not see the warming signs, while others may see it without being able to clearly explain what it is. But, spotting this relationship warning sign could save you from heartaches further down the road.
When you validate someone, you make them feel confident about their words, thoughts, and actions. You support them. It is a way of saying “I love you”. Invalidation on the other hand is the act of putting down the person. Telling them subtly or plainly that what they feel, say, or think is not important to you.  We invalidate someone by not listening to the them. We do so when we tell them that what they feel is not important. Their feelings are important.

Particularly for married couples, you should watch how you treat your spouse’s feelings. Your spouse is depending on you to understand how they are feeling.  You may not be able to empathize, but you should make every effort to understand their feelings. By making a note of what these relationship warning signs, you can steer clear of them and not run the risk of damaging the self-esteem of your partner.

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Second of Two Relationship Warning Signs:  Avoidance

We all need some down time alone.  Avoidance is not the same thing. We can avoid our spouse or significant other, by deliberately avoiding their company when we should be spending time together.  Avoidance happens when we disagree with the person, but feel that it is easier or safer to avoid them, than it is to confront them.  Your hubby may intimidate you by shouting, but avoiding him will not fix the relationship. Confrontation may not work either, but there are other ways to tackle that issue.

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That brings us to the point that avoidance can also be a reactive process

.  We often avoid someone as a reaction to something else that the person did or said. The lesson to be learned from these relationship warning signs are many but the most important one is that if we don’t fix the little problems, they can become big problems.  I’ve written more extensively on this  here.

 

A couple that spends quality time together and communicate well, can spot these signs quickly and develop great strategies to combat them.  Savemymarriagetoday.com is great place to get sincere and effect tools to help you in the fight for your relationship .  Let others call you crazy if they want.  Your love is worth protecting, and knowledge is a great tool which will open your eyes to most relationship warning signs that need your immediate attention.

 

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